Never a mistake, Always a lesson

In my last post ‘ So I took a Hiatus’ I had said don’t let others take your kindness for a weakness.

This week I am really learning that lesson there have been many situations which I have helped people and have or potentially could have a detrimental effect on me personally.

Luckily one of the situations worked out fine and was all sorted with no issues!

Another situation really just taught me a lesson ‘don’t lend money or items you cannot afford to have back’ this is a big one for me because I’ve actually always been useless at managing my money but this year I really feel like I have a handle on it and pride myself on this personal achievement.

Unfortunately some people you let into your lives aren’t the picture they paint themselves out to be – this is a lesson we all have to learn eventually!

Moving forward I will let people earn my trust instead of giving it out so willingly because like I said in my previous post – no one will have your back like yourself!

Every situation is a lesson, don’t focus on the hurt focus on what you have been taught 💖

So I took a hiatus…

I can’t believe that my last post was in January!

Time really does fly when you’re on a journey of self love and discovery.

So there’s a lot to discuss. Let’s start with my health and weight journey.

Since January I have actually lost 2 stone and I’m actually so proud of myself and how far I’ve come. I love working out I find it’s good for me physically ovbs and mentally – really sets me in a good mood, allowing me to focus on staying on a positive vibration. Healthy eating I can do but I do find it a chore some times ( I know it’s bad but I’m a self confessed lover of McDonald’s haha) but none the less I do bare in mind that every thing is about balance 💪🏽

This year I really wanted to focus on loving myself and speaking up for me because at the end of the day no one will have your back like you do. It’s always okay to voice how you feel or an opinion to people in your life. This issue is with the delivery. I have learnt over time that depending on the delivery your message can sometimes get lost.

If I feel angry or frustrated I normally take a step back and evaluate what I feel and how I can portray this in an effective way allowing resolution.

So far so good and I intend to keep learning how to voice how I feel in a productive way – but remember that you should always bare in mind when you should be assertive because the world is a cold place at times. Don’t let people take your kindness as a weakness 💕

I’m 25. A quarter of a century. I’m still young but why do I feel so old?!

I’m at that age where people around me are with their long term partners, getting married and having kids.

Me. I’m just here trying to make it through life. Even though I know eventually I will meet some one who will be the right person for me, it can be frustrating that every one else is on this path that you are no where near.

You really shouldn’t compare your journey to others but it is hard!! Especially when you are faced with couples on social media doing things you would like to eventually do.

I know what I would like in some one and I’m just not willing to settle for less just to ensure I get on this path every one seems to be going down..

However I am really just trying to focus on myself and my growth. I have many fun things planned this summer, so who knows what the future may hold.

2018 Baby

Happy New Year!

Wow I’m so excited for this year and the fresh start a new year brings. This year I turn 25 and honestly I feel more in tune with myself then I ever have and it feels great.

I know what I want in life and what I want to achieve. The hardships of 2017 have really shaped me into the person I am today and even though at the time I hated life I’m so grateful for all the trials and tribulations I have been through. Literally what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!

This year is really about practicing self love and making decisions for you rather than others. I’m going to try and do something nice for myself at least once a month, nothing extravagant just something I enjoy. Treat Yo Self 💁🏽‍♀️

So I’m really back on my aim to lose weight and I’ve never felt more motivated and dedicated to it. This is the year I really sustain a healthy diet and work out regime, I will blog more about tips and tricks I learn and also my progress!

I feel incredibly lucky to be where I am today, I have a great support system with my family and friends! Especially my friend Nina she is literally the definition of best friend, honestly she’s a star!

Also I have the best job I couldn’t of wished for a better practice to work at!

My goals this year are to learn how to drive, save money so I can get my own place, blog more and just always working on myself to become the best version of me.

A Wonderful Time of Year🎄

Merry Christmas everybody! I hope you are all enjoying the festivities with family and friends.

It’s such a lovely time of year to celebrate what is really important in life and the love people share between each other.

Hopefully most people know that this time of year is about celebrating your beliefs and/or the love for loved ones but like any holiday there is an essence of materialism.

Apart from proud parents sharing the moments of joy from their children opening gifts from Santa, I think it is highly distasteful for adults to sit there opening gift after gift.

Of course it’s lovely to receive nice gifts for Christmas but continually showing off what you got is wrong imo.

What kind of message are we sending to the already confused and some what lost younger generation who already deem material goods at such high regard. We must remember that what really matters is family and friends and not showing off for Instagram or snapchat which forever creates a false sense of reality!

I’m not saying it’s wrong to give or receive presents at this time because even myself received lovely gifts but I just don’t agree with the constant showing off when it comes to material goods.

As well as it being a time to celebrate love it is a time to be thankful. Be thankful for the family and friends you have around you to celebrate these moments. Be thankful for the abundance of food we get to endeavour at Christmas. Be thankful for being healthy and alive as this time of year can be very hard for people who aren’t as lucky to have the blessings we do.

Many people spend it alone and Christmas can make people feel worse about things they are going through right now. It’s a time to be kind and understanding as we would hope for the same if we were alone.

I hope everyone enjoys this festive time 🎄✨

Reflection 

So I haven’t posted in a while. I’ve been going through some challenges and needed to take a break from my blog for a minute. But I’m back now! 

This post is called reflection because these last weeks I have been reflecting and trying to adapt to changes that have happened in my life. So many things have changed and it took me a while to realise lol. 

My friend actually said to me last night that I’ve changed abit, I’ve become more reserved she said and it’s true that’s how I’ve become with a lot of things now. 

People leave your life & friendships can change so it’s really important to make sure that you are able to be there for yourself & have your own back because at the end of the day you’re born alone and will eventually die alone. ( I know it sounds morbid and slightly depressive but it’s the honest truth) 

I’m not saying don’t confide in people but make sure you’re good on your own as well because you never know what will happen. I’m still working on this and if this means I’m becoming more reserved, I guess that’s who I’m growing into. 

I’m definitely happier than I was a few weeks ago but as always there’s room for progress. 

Work is going really well, I really enjoy my new job – it’s literally the dream practice I’ve always hoped for. 

I’m getting into the spirit of Christmas, it’s my favourite time of year. I love seeing all the Christmas lights on Oxford Street and Marylebone High Street, it’s all so pretty! 


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Check yourself & your Mental Health 

I was going to publish this blog at a later date but in light of ‘Mental Health Awareness’ day yesterday I thought this was a more opptune time. 

‘According to the Mental Heath Foundation, every year in the UK 70 million workdays are lost due to mental illness, including anxiety, depression and stress related conditions. This means mental illness is the leading cause of sickness and absence from work’ – Counselling Directory 

Mental illness has different shapes and forms. Some people don’t even realise they suffer from a form of mental illness until they come out the other side. Some people are really good and well practiced at hiding the pain and sadness they feel inside that nobody would know they are suffering. 

1 in 4 people will experience at least one diagnosable mental health problem. It can happen to anyone, it doesn’t matter where you live or what you do or how much money you may earn every one is potentially susceptible to a form of mental illnesss. 

‘Anxiety is considered one of the most common mental health problems. In 2013 there were 8.2million cases recorded in the U.K alone’

I personally have suffered from anxiety which effected me so much my doctor recommended medication. It was a hard time for me and my family as they saw the sadness and fear I was dealing with. During the worst time of my anxiety I literally felt as if I was in a black hole filled with fear and panic with no way out. Some days I wasn’t able to go to work & some days I would have panic attacks whilst out with friends. It was a very frustrating time for me, I just wanted to feel like my old self. I just wanted to be normal. 

One day it got so bad, I couldn’t go to work and I had just had enough with trying to battle these feelings. I wanted it all to end. 

This is when I decided I needed professional help and went to my GP. I discussed how I was feeling with my doctor and he asked various questions about my home life and life in general. But I had no answer to give him as to why I was feeling this way or what caused it. Looking back now I would say it was a mixture of work stress, a really hard break up that had happened months before & unresolved issues from my younger days.  All these feelings and stresses I had pushed to the back of my mind just erupted. 

I was fortunate to have a doctor that was patient and empathetic who listened to all my concerns and worries. He sent a referral to Mind Matters and prescribed me medication to use when I was having an anxiety attack. The medication worked and made me feel much better. It helped me get back to my normal self. My experience with Mind Matters was really positive, they were efficient and understanding and reassured me that if I relapsed into my bad anxiety faze they were always there to talk to. 

Today I am off the medication and anxiety free. I know my triggers and how to calm my nerves without the use of medication but I know it’s always there if I really need it. 

Depression can be caused by various different reasons for many people. It can cause people to feel so down they don’t know what the purpose of living is any more which in some cases can lead to suicide. 

‘Suicide is the leading cause of death among young people aged 20-34 years in the U.K. and it is considerably higher in men, with around three times as many men dying as a result of suicide compared to women’ – Mental Health Foundation

The Mental Health Foundation say that men are more likely to commit suicide because they are less likely to talk about depressive feelings or suicidal thoughts compared to women. I really believe that young boys and teenage boys should be encouraged discuss their feelings rather than being told to be a ‘big boy’ or ‘man up’. 

Expressing feelings of sadness or worry are nothing to be ashamed about and there should be more open talks about how you feel in schools and colleges. Children and young adults to should be encouraged to talk to their parents/guardians, teachers or even use helplines if they need some one to talk to. Especially in this age of social media where the use of online bullying is increasing. 

I encourage every one to openly talk about how they feel, listen to others and be empathetic because you never know when some  one can be truly in need of some one to talk to. 

Don’t forget to take time out of the hustle and bustle of every day life and check yourself and your Mental Health! 

hypnotherapists.org.uk

If you are suffering from a mental health problem and would like to discuss it please contact your GP or click the links below;  

http://www.counselling-directory.org.uk

https://mind.org.uk/

http://www.mindmatters.uk.com/

https://www.samaritans.org/
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